TAMBIHUL GHAAFILEEN - ADMONITION FOR THE NEGLECTFUL
by Faqih Abul Laith Samarqandi

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8. FOSTERING GOOD RELATIONSHIPS

THREE QUALITIES OF THE PEOPLE OF JANNAH

The following are three qualities that are found in the people of Jannah and are exclusive to those who are noble an honourable. They are:

  1. Being good to those who are bad to them.
  2. Forgiving those who oppress them.
  3. Spending on those who do not give anything to them.

A STATEMENT OF HADHRAT UMAR (R.A).

"By adopting taqwa and maintaining sound family ties one´s life is extended, sustenance is blessed, and mutual love grows."

MUSLIMS AND KUFFAR ARE TO BE TREATED EQUALLY IN THREE RESPECTS.

Hadhrat Maymoon bin Mihraan (R.A) says that Muslims and the kuffar must be treated equally in three respects viz.

  1. In the fulfilment of promises pledged to them.
  2. In the maintenance of good family relations.
  3. In returning of trusts in the same condition as they were received.

A STATEMENT OF HADHRAT HASAN BASRI (R.A).

Allah´s curse is on those people who display knowledge, but destroy action, who express love with the tongue, while the heart harbours hatred, and who sever family ties.

Faqih Abul Laith (R.A) says that it is compulsory to send gifts and regularly meet those relatives who live close by. If one is unable to give gifts, then he should at least meet with them and render them assistance when need be. If they live in a distant place, one must write to them in an effort to maintain ties.

TEN BENEFITS OF FOSTERING GOOD FAMILY RELATIONS.

  1. It harnesses Allah´s pleasure.
  2. It pleases the relative (pleasing a Mu´min is a form of worship).
  3. It pleases the angels.
  4. It earns the praises of others (which is a bounty if it is not made one´s objective).
  5. It grieves Iblees.
  6. It increases one´s lifespan (The life is more blessed and one earns more reward because he has time to do more good actions).
  7. It increases the blessings in one´s sustenance.
  8. It even pleases the deceased (when they are informed thereof).
  9. It increases people´s love for one (they will therefore be ready to assist one at the time of need).
  10. The reward earned thereby continues to accrue to one even after his death (those with whom one maintained good ties will continue to make du´aa for him after his demise).

THREE GROUPS OF PEOPLE WILL BE BENEATH THE SHADE OF ALLAH´S THRONE ON THE DAY OF QIYAMAH.

Hadhrat Anas bin Maalik (R.A) say that three groups of people will be beneath the shade of Allah´s throne on the Day of Judgement viz.

  1. Those who fostered good family ties (since he comforted people in this world, Allah will see to his comfort on the Day of Qiyamah by shading him and protecting him from the torment of that day).
  2. Those widows who did not remarry for the sake of their children.
  3. Those who also invited orphans and poor people to a feast.

ALLAH LOVES TWO FOOTSTEPS.

Rasulullah (sallallahu-alayhi-wa-sallam) has mentioned that Allah loves two footsteps very much. The first is the footstep taken towards salaah, and the second is the one taken in the direction of joining family ties.

FIVE FACTORS THAT INFLATE THE REWARDS OF ACTIONS TO THE SIZE OF MOUNTAINS AND INCREASES ONE´S SUSTENANCE.

  1. To inculcate the habit of spending in charity (irrespective of the amount).
  2. Fostering sound family relations (to any degree).
  3. To continuously strive in Allah´s path (in any form).
  4. To always remain in the state of wudhu.
  5. To obey the parents at all times and in all circumstances.

Spending in charity, maintaining family ties and obeying one´s parents are of the highest forms of fulfilling the rights of people. Striving in Allah´s path is one of the highest forms of fulfilling Allah´s rights. Constantly remaining in the state of wudhu is the best way of averting shaytaan´s plots and other calamities.

SOME AHADEETH.

  1. Rasulullah (sallallahu-alayhi-wa-sallam) said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the last day should entertain his guest. Whoever believes in Allah and the last day should join family ties. Whoever believes in Allah and the last day should speak what is good or remain silent." [Bukhari and Muslim]
  2. Rasulullah (sallallahu-alayhi-wa-sallam) said, "The person who yearns that his sustenance and his life be blessed, should maintain good family ties."
  3. Rasulullah (sallallahu-alayhi-wa-sallam) has mentioned, "The proper maintainer of family ties is not the one who treats others as they do to him, but he is one who joins with those who sever ties with him."
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